Boney M is playing everywhere, kids are overly excited, and masses flock to the mall to buy gifts for their loved ones. Ahhhh the holiday season, such a joyous time to reflect and express our love and happiness to the ones that matter most. But something is missing, what could it be? A ring perhaps? Perhaps.
The Christmas holiday season is an extremely popular time of year for couples to get engaged, or question their direction. Now before I go off as cynical hear me out. I'm not saying that it is a bad time for couples, all I'm saying is that it can be a high stress time for a lot of them. In fact the holidays are a time when most people start evaluating relationships. keeping that in mind, you may say that the holidays could be make or break.
Extra Long Term Relationships (3+ yrs): Women know its prime season for engagements and some hope for the "unexpected" little box under the tree or in the stocking. Family and friends are no help either, the eagerness of your loved ones certainly feeds that fire. There are really two possible outcomes, either she gets a ring or she doesn't. If she doesn't, you best believe she's wondering why, when, or if this is ever going to happen. If the talk hasn't happened...it will.
Long term relationships (1-2yrs) : Now I'm gonna spin it to the guys on this one, so ladies just hear me out. She's probably wondering where this is gonna go, you may not have the talk but she is thinking future. The I love you's have been said and if you don't live together you probably already have the keys.You have been to family gatherings and know most if not all of each others close friends. If you know she's thinking future and you're not, speak up. If you are speak up, but the bottom line is something must be said. Nobody likes their time wasted.
New relationships (under 3months): A few months in? this is probably more awkward than anything. It's more about showing special interest during the holidays. Choose your gifts wisely, and keep it simple. I'd be cautious on the family invite. Each family is different and everyone has different comfort levels, so if your planning on inviting him or her to a family event, make sure to talk about it honestly before any decisions are made. Inviting someone to your family event may not be a big deal to you, but it could be to your family or the other person.
I said it before nobody wants to have their time wasted, but you should address these issues before the holidays to avoid the added stress if you can.
The holiday season should be a fun one! So do yourself a favor and relive yourself of the tension and awkwardness and just talk it out (cause Valentine's day is coming. We'll talk about that later.)
Enjoy the holidays with the ones you love.