Introducing....LADY NINJA!!!!

Konichiwa fellow Word Up Ninja lovers! I’m Lady Ninja (like Lady Gaga, but less meat dresses and more pink nunchuks). I am the newest member of the Word Up Ninja team!

Okay let’s get real....you come to this site to read posts that make you say, “Yeah! That’s exactly what I think!” or “Whaaaat the heck is the Love Ninja on about!?!” but the main point is you come to hear opinions and compare them to your opinions!

The great news is (drum roll please...) now you have another Ninja’s perspective to read! (cue bells, whistles and a quick Ninja booty shake)

So to start it off I’ll share with you a little quote that I live by:

“Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable” –Bruce Lee

What does this mean? Well I see it as a video of what love is! We often seek the flame of love—hot, pretty and fierce—but we forget that it is short lived and superficial! It is the coals that represent a true quality relationship (whether that’s romantic or just friendship!)

Here’s my question to you:

DO YOU PREFER A “FLICKERING FLAME” TO “UNQUENCHABLE COALS”?

When you meet someone do you look only for a fire and when it passes also let the opportunity for a strong relationship pass as well? Or do you recognize that the fire is what draws you in and the deep-burning coals are truly the gift you long for!!

Heavy stuff for a first intro post hey?!! Haha!

"Real" Friends with benefits for 2011

This year Hollywood has blessed us with two films which are fairly identical, and only months appart for scheduled release dates. I know it's hard to believe that an industry as authentic as the motion picture industry could make such a huge mistake.

 Currently out in theaters, starring mega stars Ashton Kutcher and Natalie Portman is the much anticipated film "No strings attached".  Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis star in the film "Friends with benefits", scheduled to be released later this summer.

You trying to tell us something Hollywood?

   The premise  for both movies is quite simple, and asks the same question; Can two people maintain two very different relationships with one individual? an actual friendship, as well as a purely sexual relationship.

This concept differs from the more common tryst of "friends with benefits", where in actuality you are not really friends.

 In the first situation, I don't know how it can possibly work. Not to say that it hasen't worked for some, and if so, all the power to you. But for the rest of you...listen up! If you think that the person whom you have an actual friendship, with will be cool with you checkin shortys in front of them like how you did before the panties dropped will be cool with it..... think again. Not gonna happen. There is way too big of an emotional connection between you two for it to work. You know too much about each other, no doubt there is some attraction there (read Why we are attracted to our friends), but entering this arrangement will in most cases, end the friendship.
If both parties get attached, great... (read the lovers and friends series) the person whom you've been looking for may have been in front of your face the whole time. But probably not.

 The latter of the two situations is way more realistic as far as longevity is concerned.
The term being "friends", in this situation is really for lack of a better word to describe this relationship. You do (or  should) have some heightened level of respect for this person, you also have a clear understanding and an agreement of the limitations of this relationship. Again It probably won't work.     In many situations it really doesn't. One person develops feelings and then messes this beautiful arrangement up. Dang. So is life.

So whats my point?  If you want friends with benefits I ain't mad at ya, in fact I endorse it as a life lesson, just make sure that you're not friends.

Be safe.

Love, Ninja

Why a new relationship is the LAST thing you need.

If you've recently come out of a 1 year or longer relationship, chances are, that your newly found single days could be closer to and end than your last relationship. This may seem good to some, and hey! It may be, but for most it could be another heartache waiting in the winds.
Both men and women after breakups miss that emotional connect they once had with their ex (assuming they had one), and typically men don't get that with other men as often as women do with other women.


My advice to you? Consider staying single for a while.

• Find comfort in being alone and emotionally independent. You may not ready for a relationship anyway, so take the time to work on yourself. Do things that YOU want to do.Try new hobbies, pick up a book. What ever you do, just work on improving yourself as a person. Not for anyone else but you. If you are broken, and start a new relationship it's not gonna last.

• Don look for someone to make you happy, that new person may be great but they can't take away the pain of the last breakup. They may make you forget it but that doesn't mean it no longer exists.

• Relieve yourself of "Ex-Anger",  Some say forgive and forget, some don't, but get over your anger towards your ex, anger is a burden. It may not happen overnight, it may not happen two weeks from now. Take your time and figure out a health way to release your anger.

• Ease up on the partying. You have a golden opp for guilt free night outs and one night stands.This takes a toll on your body and spirit and you may develop a rep that may be hard to shake.        (You should have some craziness in you life at some point...just saying...)

Take your time, live life & enjoy the ones closest to you. When you're not trying to "find that someone" , or get noticed in a crowd,When you last relationship is a memory and not an open wound, When your life changes take value and new meaningful relationships are created. Your ready.
 And That my friends is how you begin to live again.


Be good. And Happy New single Year.
Love, Ninja