Thursday, October 6, 2011
Posted by The Ninja
If you haven't asked it, you've probably thought about it. Curiously looking at your partner. "How many people have you had sex with?"
First off the importance of this means very little. Or does it? Why do we ask? partially because we want to judge.
Do you really want to know? Guys want a woman to be grrrrrreat! in bed, yet often have an issue with a woman gaining experience through other partners. Guys would love to be with that girl who hasn't had many partners, but most guys would not want to be that persons "first".
Don't get me wrong, this Ninja believes that women generally feel the same way, no girl wants to be with a Man-Whore but likes a guy who knows what he's doing with that thing.
Men supposedly inflate and women under-report their sexual partners for social reasons.
Can this be the case? possibly, but somewhere along the lines, the numbers should mathematically correct themselves. If the information is accurate it should be equal, no?
Women are more likely to rely on enumeration when asked the question, while guys tend to rely on a rough estimate. Could have something to do with the stereotypical way that both sexes view sexual experiences? Where sometimes guys are less likely to remember a name of a girl that he has slept with some time ago, most women will remember. Are women just more likely to form an emotional connection during sexual experiences than guys?, where as the guys may not recall all the details of "flings", women probably will.
It's more likely that, enumeration is typically tied to life and social events. Research shows that enumeration can lead to under reporting. If your memory is based on events, personal belongings, location etc. then at some point your memory will exhaust your options, while your trying to recall.
If you are going on a rough estimate, then you really aren't basing it on any accuracy at all.
Back to the REAL question....How much is too many?
What number would turn you off from your current partner?
Does it depend on age?
Do you know how many people your partner has been with?
If you want to share this info with your partner then feel free, but just understand that you don't have to. It should not be important in most cases, all that matters is who they are with now.
Hopefully that's JUST you.